Tiny lights against the dark night.

There is something magical and wonderful about the dark starless night staring back as you speed home along the stretch of AYE where the port containers called home.

The emptiness of the Sept night so stark void of any stars except for the sole bright unexceptional round moon holding court over the entire sky. The silent beauty of it, contrast against tiny lights coming from the apartment homes along AYE, is so peaceful and magical for me, a moment in time where I will remember.

Even the street lampost add to the magic, illustrating the emptiness of the road, matching the empty sky. Each stood solitary tall and proudly shining the way home for me. And in the midst of this, somewhere I remember the following words and being to think:

"...The stronger the emotional commitment, the greater the tendency to behave irrationally. This is why counselors usually advise against sexual intimacy until mutual respect, trust and friendship have been well established."

"When you are more concerned about the others' feelings than your own, you teach others to ignore your feelings too. And beware: one of the reasons you haven't raised the issue is that you don't want to jeopardize the relationship. Yet by not raising it, the resentment you feel will grow and slowly erode the relationship anyway."

If respect, trust and friendship are the basic pillar for a good relationship and feelings are the expression of them, what should I do if the other partner is unable to express feeling honestly for whatever reasons. The pillars would not be strong if feelings are not expressed honestly.

My bet to answer the question is in dialogs that are honest and sincere, where focus is in listening and understanding of both party stories, where in the end both accepted each other for who they are.