Hearing out my married friends.

I talked to two of my married friends on my current relationship problem. One male and the other female.

Both told me that no-one can really understands a person pains in his job environment. Both told me that I should say sorry to her.

The male one pointed out that I must decides if I can accept her behavior in these matters in the long term ahead. The issue that caused the current turmoil is a very small one. There will be bigger issues ahead. If both of us could not work this small one, then I have no confidence that we can solve the big ones.

He asked me this question when we were waiting for our bus home, "Do I know what to do next?" I answered, "Well, I have to say sorry and pamper her for the next two weeks. After she cools down, have a serious talk with her on the matter. If we could not work out how to solve matters like this, then she not for me."

Yes, I am 34 this year. Not good to have too many relationship in life CV. I hope to live to 55 and more, which makes it a total of 21 years and more. If I make the wrong partner choice then I see it as 21 years of constant tolerance . I dun think my tolerance bank can last 21 years and more.

Tiziano Ferro / Sere Nere

One hand cannot clap alone.

The pool, as usual, was full of children and their parents. Luckily, they did not crowd the pool so much that I have stop when swimming a lap. I swam 12 laps before calling its quits. I realized I needs to improve my free-style.

Bukit Merah SARFA swimming pool is a very nice place to swim, thou you have to be a SARFA member before you can use the pool. It is pity that the camera in my 6320 does not do justice to the scenic view. Else I would have posted a nice pic here.

I am thinking hard whatever to call it quits for my current relationship. The crux of the matter is whether proper respects for each other views will grow over time. There is nothing wrong with not accepting another person advise/view but it is immature to not give the other party a chance to tell it. As a general rule, we will agreed on a subject because it is familiar and regular with our understanding/earning. Hence, isn't there more value when we disagreed on a subject because it present a alternative and different view that is different to our current understanding.

She does not have an open mind, which I find it sad cos it is closes out other different, alternative views that may helps to solve our current and future problems.

I have decided that if she does not call me by the coming Tuesday. It is over for us. I will be sad but her silent says tons about how concerned she is about me. This espisode flush to the surface my hidden lurking ill-sceure feeling about our relationship.