Forgiving does not mean forgetting that you have been wronged or pretending you have not been hurt. It does not mean that you must like a person who has caused you pain. Forgiving does mean releasing the pain to God.
Getting the other person to change their actions, behavior or words isn't the point of forgiveness. In fact, the other person may never change or apologize for the offense. Think of forgiveness more about how it can change your life by bringing you more peace, happiness, and emotional and spiritual healing.
Forgiveness takes away the power the other person continues to wield in your life. Through forgiveness, you choose to no longer define yourself as a victim. Forgiveness is done primarily for yourself, and less so for the person who wronged you.
It does not mean reconciliation as it may not be appropriate where trust is lost and difficult to be rebuilt in the current present situation.
Forgiving isn't the same as forgetting what happened to you. The act that hurt or offended you may always remain a part of your life. But forgiveness can lessen its grip on you and help you focus on other, positive parts of your life. Forgiveness also doesn't mean that you deny the other person's responsibility for hurting you, and it doesn't minimize or justify the wrong. You can forgive the person without excusing the act.
- Extracted from various websites with my own commentaries.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Be Bold each day
Be bold each day means bringing yourself to do an action outside yr comfort zone, that take you to the edge of fear, where crossing it brings the potential of a good outcome. Meaning giving you a chance where not taking action means no chance at all.
Monday, October 19, 2009
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